Success at School - Communication
Communicate Clearly – I believe this is especially important with your child. My children behave better and respond more appropriately when they know what is expected of them and what is going to be happening.
Son: Mommy, I’m nervous about going to school today.
Mommy: Oh honey, you’ll be fine. Don’t worry about it!
Daughter: Daddy, I’m nervous about going to school today.
Daddy: Can you tell me why you’re nervous today?
Daughter: Because I have to talk about my book report in front of class today.
Daddy: Oh yes, Daughter! I saw that on your weekly teacher newsletter that you’d be doing that today. The teacher wrote that it is only a 5 minute presentation and that it doesn’t have to be memorized. So just write down a few notes you want to say and read them if you need to. You’re a smart girl, so I know you’ll do well. Make sure and tell me about it tonight after I get home from work!
I wrote Example 1 from personal experience. These answers of mine are usually when we’re trying to get shoes on, bags packed and get everyone out the door. It’s an understandable answer when you’re rushed, but Example 2 really prepares your child for what’s ahead and how to approach the situation in a prepared way.
Communicate Quality – I know, “quality” doesn’t start with a “c” and messes up my alliteration, but I’m going with it. Let your kids know you want and expect them to do their best at everything. Settling for mediocrity doesn’t help anyone.
God gave each of our children a wonderful set of talents and abilities. Granted, certain children have strengths in music, math or PE. It’s hard not to envy the first chair flute player, the science whiz, or the baseball star. As parents, it’s hard not to compare our kids with other ones.
When our children recognize their own strengths and the strengths of their friends come from God, they are more accepting of themselves and each other.
Communicate Correctly – This one’s for the parents. At Sunnyside Christian School, we encourage communication to flow following the Matthew 18 principle.
The Message version of the Bible says it this way, “If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him—work it out between the two of you. If he listens, you’ve made a friend. If he won’t listen, take one or two others along so that the presence of witnesses will keep things honest, and try again. If he still won’t listen, tell the church. If he won’t listen to the church, you’ll have to start over from scratch, confront him with the need for repentance, and offer again God’s forgiving love.”
I encourage you to read the Student and Parent Handbook for more details on the communications policy at SCS. And I want to remind you that our school works best when we try to work as a family. We’re going to have great times and difficulties, experience times of joy and times of frustration. Following a biblical model of communicating our feelings will result in the close-knit community that we desire for our children.